Having such a strained relationship with my mother, I’m always thinking about this sort of thing. I’m a silly mom. I’m an affectionate mom. I’m an open mom. I am also way more connected and way more involved than my mom ever was with me. It always makes me sad.
Mother’s Day came and passed. I didn’t hear from my mom, nor did I try to contact her. My birthday was shorty after Mother’s Day and she did text me. I couldn’t bring myself to write her back though. Why? What’s the point? So we can exchange “pleasantries?” So she can feel better about herself? I don’t want a relationship with someone who hides their life from me. This isn’t a one-way street. You don’t get access to my life while withholding yours.
So, I just try to be the best mom I can to my boys. Sometimes that is a lazy mom. Sometimes that is a fun mom. In any case, my kids know that I am here and always will be here for them.
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